Beaker asked me today, via email, if i wanted to go ice skating. I was so completely tired from this weekend’s excitement, annoyed by work, and annoyed that he was asking me day of, that I told him I made plans. I’m not sure how I expected him to respond, I mean if I were him, I guess I would have already given up, but he wrote back and said he was really sorry and that he realized it was lame we had to do stuff in the beginning of the week bc of his schedule, but that he had a wedding to go to this weekend where he was the best man, so he kind of had to go. He also apologized for not getting back to me on Sunday, but that he had actually called me en route to the airport and didn’t get back until 1am this morning.
So apology accepted and I know in this instance I am being difficult. At the same time, asking someone day of (even though we had mentioned meeting up mon or tues of this week) is a bit optimistic. Especially with someone that I’m just dating.
We talked tonight – 30 min rule enforced – and of course I was being coy with him, seeing what he would say. Somehow, he suggested the idea that I flip a coin. If its heads, I go out with him, and if its tails, I don’t. I asked him if he was okay with that, and he said, “yeah, I mean 50/50 odds are pretty good…at least a 50% chance of seeing you is worth it.” I started laughing bc I could not believe he would say something that nice, and said, “did you spend all day on oneliners.com at work or what?” He responded very sincerely, “I couldn’t even come up with a line if i tried.”
And that is why I like dorks.
Anyway, we chatted for a while. Then he totally called me out and said,
“You like to make guys work for it huh?”
“What gave you that idea,” I asked, totally sarcastically.
“Oh, just a hunch. Its like you have a series of tests–and even after those tests, there are still more tests.”
I continued laughing. Obviously, he’s totally right.
Then he said, “Well, thats ok, I can handle it.”
“Well, you did say you like puzzles.”
“Yes, and DX is the biggest puzzle of them all.”
so tomorrow–Im not sure whats going on. I think the flipping the coin thing evolved into us playing a game of connect 4 on the sidewalk in front of my house. If I win, I get to go back inside. If he wins, I have to go out with him. According to Beaker, he thinks this plan will work bc Im just crazy enough to find the whole game intriguing. Again–he’s very right. I’m not sure what will happen after I win or lose, but I told him to bake me and bring me some splenda cookies so that I have something to eat while I play…er win. He upped it and said he’ll bring the lawn chairs and the portable space heater. Why is this so amusing to me?
At one point, he asked me to come over and make cookies with him at his house. You know, the thing is, most guys when they want you to come to their house, its for the obvious reasons. Im not going to deny that going to someones house is not taking a step in that direction, but I really think that in his case, he wants to go to the next level–i.e. being comfortable with someone, not necessarily get me to sleep w/him. Unless Im really that stupid.
The cool thing though was that, unlike anyone, and maybe bc I started dating him w/this mentality, I felt completely 100% ok in telling him point blank, “I’m not ready to bake cookies with you.” He wasnt a jerk or defensive or anything about it, he was just like, “Oh. That’s right. You don’t want to come over to my house, huh?” To which I said, “No, I really don’t.” And I know he knows what Im implying by all of this. And he just seemed natural about the whole thing, not awkward.
The difference between beaker and dolby is the difference between night and day. I know that Beaker knows what games I’m playing. I know he’s aware. Dolby on the other hang = holy crap he’s too cluelese. I mean when Im subtle w/beaker, he reads between the lines. When I try the same technique w/Dolby, he still doesnt get the picture. And how stupid can you be–I told him I was avail wed or thurs and hes like “well, thurs Im going to a giants game so you’ll have to come with me if we go out then.” Um. wrong answer dude. Totally wrong answer.
I think the Canadian was right w/this one. He’s a super nice guy, but…tag and release. I got other men to date.
